Are you nervous or scared of something you need or want to do. Here is my advice… So what! Do it anyway. Just jump! And remember nervous and excited feel the same 🙂
What You Wish For
You know the saying, ‘be careful what you wish for.’ I believe there is an awful lot of wisdom in that saying. Why? Because God, the Universe, or whatever you call it gives us what we are asking for whether we are asking directly or indirectly. For instance, saying “I’m sick all the time,” is validating your illness as well as putting it out there asking for more. Does that sound harsh? Think of it this way… When are you more likely to feel better when you start thinking and talking about feeling better or when you are focused on illness and symptoms. Or when do you feel happier? When you are focused on your problem or when you are focused on a laughing baby? You still have the same problem, but your energy is different. I’m not suggesting we consciously put out a call for sickness or any negative situation. What I am suggesting is the energy you put out, is the energy you will get back. It is your choice.
Happiness vs. Failure
I came across this quote the other day, and just sent it to someone a little while ago: “It is not God’s will merely that we should be happy, but that we should make ourselves happy,” Immanuel Kant. It reminds me of Buddha’s, “There is no path to happiness, happiness is the path.” It sounds so simple doesn’t it? So why is it so hard? Almost everyone claims they want to be happy. So why aren’t we all? Could part of the issue be using our unhappiness as an excuse not to dare to pursue the dreams we want to? Could part of it be a part of ‘happiness’ in our minds depends on ‘success’ and risking success comes with risking failure? Ah failure… why does that one word limit so much of our growth, so much of our potential and so many of our relationships. It is after all just one word. It has no magical power and no ability to do anything but sit on a page and stare at us. I don’t know when the word ‘failure’ got branded with the negative connotation it has, but I believe it is unwarranted. Failure is the key to success. It is a pre-requisite to achievement and to growth. Whomever the idiot that convinced us that within our culture failure is bad was quite the talented orator. Failure after all is nothing but a stepping stone. It should be embraced with warmth and the knowledge that you are proceeding to grow. “There are no failures-just experiences and your reactions to them,” Tom Krause. “We always think of failure as the antithesis of success, but it isn’t. Success often lies just the other side of failure,” Leo F. Buscaglia.
Perspective
“In the right light, at the right time, everything is extraordinary”. ~ Aaron Rose Someone sent me the above quote this morning. It got me thinking about the thousands of people who slogged into work this morning because they ‘had’ to. If you take the word ‘had’ and replace it with the word ‘get’ there is a monumental shift in perspective. Nothing has changed but perspective, but our perspective can in turn impact our thoughts/actions which impact our outcomes. And that is when the shift takes root.
The Winds Of Change
Change is an odd thing. Most of us beg for it, but don’t want to experience it. And while change is constant so many of us strive to implement some type of ‘control’ in our lives. So my question is, when and why did ‘change’ get such a bad wrap? “He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery.” ~Harold Wilson Whether the above quote rings true or not the challenge is nevertheless very real for so many of us to wrap our minds around the idea that change is always happening and we control very little of our daily lives. We are dependent upon change for survival. Let the winds of change blow. Have the courage to let go and the winds of change will take you exactly where you need to be.
Grateful
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” ~Marcel Proust
Lean Into It
A friend emailed the following to me: “Lean into the fear – It means it matters to you, that’s a good thing” ~J. Feilds The book Career Renegade by Jonathan Fields is a brilliant resource.